Food for thought:
“In het-female-oriented romance stories, the resolution of conflict between hero and heroine serves as the narrative justification for the romantic outcome: he has done Y and she has done Z, therefore they win each other. The story is about both their wants and needs, and while there’s often a stronger emotional focus on the heroine, the why of the hero’s attraction is still deemed important.
Traditional action narratives teach men that relationships are based on the successful completion of specific tasks, such that women’s internal thoughts, feelings and conflicts are a wholly irrelevant factor.
Traditional romance narratives teach women that relationships are based on the mutual resolution of conflict. They are also constantly derided as not only lesser stories, but so inherently feminine as to be incompatible with male interest.
Which is why I will forever be deeply fucking suspicious of anyone who trumpets their love of action movies while laughing derisively at the very idea of chick flicks:”